Commitment Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

Leah DiPascal

Day: 23 | Plan: Covenant

Today’s Teaching: Song of Songs 6

Song of Songs 6:3a (NIV) "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine."

What do you do when the love you once had for your spouse begins to fade? You've made a vow to stay committed, but you never thought marriage would be this hard. Can love actually get better over time, or does time cause love to become lukewarm and indifferent? Honestly, does real love really last a lifetime?

The indifference that caused the separation between the wife and her husband (Song of Songs 5) has finally been overcome and they are reunited. Surprisingly, distance and time has not caused a wedge to form in their relationship. Instead it only strengthens their love to a new and deeper level.

Upon seeing her, Solomon reaffirms his love and speaks words of praise to his bride. If she was looking for evidence that his commitment and passion towards her was still alive, he confirmed that not only was it alive, but it was abundantly flourishing.

His desire and admiration for her hadn't faded in any way. One glance into her eyes still overwhelmed him — just like it did when they were courting and physically longing and waiting for one another before marriage. He still noticed the lovely details of her body and his affections and desire for her had only deepened over the years.

During their time of separation, she may have grown uncertain and insecure. But Solomon reassured his beloved she had nothing to worry about. Regardless of all the other women available to him, none compared to his lovely bride. What they had created together in marriage over time was far greater and more exciting to him than a limitless line of royal virgins. She is the perfect one for him.

Their courting relationship started from a sprouting seed of physical desire and passion, but it had grown to a full-bloom garden of commitment and care, where their love would stay firmly rooted in the fertile soil of rich devotion to one another. Years would pass and physical beauty would eventually fade. Times of struggle and indifference would no doubt test their love. And they would quickly realize that a strong marriage would require much more than frequent nights of intimacy to sustain itself.

Love would become so much more than just an emotional feeling or passionate heartbeat. Together with unwavering commitment, love would form an unbreakable bond — strengthened by one choice after another — saying yes to each other and remaining faithfully pledged in the union of marriage.

Committed love is saying yes to serving when we'd rather be the one served. It's saying yes to humility when our pride is begging to get its own way. It's saying yes in good times and bad times, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, in sheer happiness and unbearable seasons of struggle. 

Romantic love transforms into committed, covenant love. Designed by God so that a husband and wife can stand united, even against all odds, and grow in their devotion to one another over the course of time.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, marriage between a husband and wife is a beautiful gift from You and something that should never be taken for granted. Help me remain committed to my spouse and to seek You for strength and guidance when our love is tested over time. Search my heart and show me any walls of resistance that I've built up, which are keeping me from fully loving in a way that honors You. Keep me firmly rooted in Your love so that I can live out that love and remain devoted for a lifetime. In Jesus' name, amen.

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