Making Love a Priority

Wendy Blight

Day: 22 | Plan: Covenant

Today’s Reading: Song of Songs 5

Song of Songs 5:6 (NIV) “I opened for my beloved, but my beloved had left; he was gone. My heart sank at his departure.”

God’s timing is always perfect. My husband and I are celebrating 30 years of marriage this year. After so many years, it’s easy to think we have this marriage thing figured out. But my time in this beautiful love song spoke a fresh word into my heart and my marriage. It caused me to reflect on the amount of time and attention I give to my husband.

In Song of Songs 5, we encounter our bride and groom at a new stage of marriage. Real life sets in. The wedding is over, and they have settled into a routine. Routine is good, but it can also be dangerous. Sometimes our jobs, duties and responsibilities can consume us so much that we neglect one another. They sap the excitement and passion that filled those newlywed times.

It’s unclear whether our bride here was dreaming or half-awake, but what we do know is she heard a knocking and the voice of her beloved. He was tenderly calling to her, asking to be with her.

Initially, she rejected him, making excuses as to why she wouldn’t get up and answer his call. Not even his own discomfort of being drenched with dew moved her heart to arise from her comfortable bed and let him in. Was she angry with him because he was late? Harboring resentment because of an argument they had earlier? 

It wasn’t until she heard him moving the door latch that “[her] heart began to pound for him” (Song of Solomon 5:4b). His persistence stirred her heart. Passion rose within her and moved her to action. She desired him and invited him into her room.

But, she was too late. When she opened the door for her beloved, he was gone.

She searched far and wide for him but could not find him anywhere.

Her experience convicted me. After 30 years, the passion and excitement that accompanied our early years of marriage has waned. Marriage is hard. We are busy. It’s often difficult to make time for each other.

But, it doesn’t have to be that way. God created and ordained marriage. It is good. It’s the choices we make that allow passion to cool and desires to wane. Love needs to be nurtured. It needs time. And, it isn’t one spouse’s responsibility. It belongs to both of us.

This led me to consider the role I play in loving and caring for my husband. And, although Song of Solomon is focused on the marriage relationship, this question isn’t limited to husbands and wives. We can all consider our part in nurturing relationships, whether they be family, in-laws, friends or co-workers.

Do we invest time in the people God has placed in our lives? Do we seek our own way or do we graciously compromise and seek to do what they love and enjoy? Do we speak words of criticism or words of praise?

Because of my time spent in this book, I invited God to fan the flame of love for my husband. I didn’t know what that would look like or what God would ask of me, but I trust God knows me and my heart and wants the best for our marriage. I knew He would show me. He did, and God will do the same for you!

Tucked into today’s reading is another beautiful message that speaks to our relationship with Jesus. Please join me in the More Moment to dig a bit deeper.

Prayer: Father, thank You for reminding me that I need to nurture my relationships, especially my relationship with my husband. Open my eyes and give me a discerning heart to know how I can bless and encourage him. Show me ways I can love him and make him feel special and appreciated. In Jesus’ name, amen.

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